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Hop Against Homophobia—Let’s Ban the Word!

May 17th, 2012 (10:47 am)

feeling: cynical

International Day Against Homophobia

In my case, I’m literally hopping against homophobia.  I want the word itself erased, wiped out, never to be used.

Here’s why.

Homophobia: Fear or hatred of homosexuals and homosexuality.

Interestingly the OED has this as the second definition of the term, the first definition is the fear of men, all men.

Let’s break that down still further shall we?

Homo (don’t forget it must be pronounced “homer” NOT HOMO (so you can’t go calling people homos, that’s incorrect, they are “homers.” Get it right, haters.)

Phobia:   A fear, horror, strong dislike, or aversion; esp. an extreme or irrational fear or dread aroused by a particular object or circumstance.

Most of the bigots who are homophobic, aren’t homophobic at all, so perhaps we can get rid of the word entirely. I’m all for that. Homosexuals (which encompasses every pocket of the QUILTBAG range I’m sure, because you can’t be a real homophobe if you accept Ladyboys but loathe the idea of lesbians.

Plus it’s not a phobia. It’s not an “irrational fear” – it might, in some cases, where people have been raped or beaten to death, be extreme, but that would have to include that people run screaming from them, stand on chairs, or need to get someone else to get them out of the bath.

It’s not irrational at all, except that if you are a normal human being it IS irrational even to consider anyone treating anyone any different based on any part of their personality. People are prejudiced against colour because that’s something that they can perceive. However if I tell people I’m bisexual (and am long term single) how can they treat me any differently just because of who I might (one day!) have in my bed. In my own house. In private. It might be irrational to you and me, but it’s not an irrational fear. You might be able to get away with that when you (like me) get completely freaked out over earwigs (love most other insects) but to say you are phobic about anyone under the QUILTBAG umbrella is just  an excuse. You aren’t phobic.

You are a hater.

So let’s call a spade a spade shall we? Let’s not pretty up a vile thing by cloaking it in pretty “oh, it’s an irrational fear, like flying, I can’t HELP how I feel” Greek terms. Let’s call them what they are. Haters. Haters of anyone who isn’t exactly like them.


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Thanks for reading.


Posted by: lawless (lawless523)
Posted at: May 17th, 2012 10:57 am (UTC)
gravitation: eiri & shuichi support gay

IDK, it seems to me that hatred often arises from irrational fears.
I think this is circular. But I'm mostly commenting because I'd love to win a copy of Junction X and your Carina book, the name of which I've conveniently forgotten.

Posted by: JL Merrow (jl_merrow)
Posted at: May 17th, 2012 11:14 am (UTC)

I love your icon. :) And I giggled at the thought of a bigot needing to get someone else to get, say, a lesbian out of the bath.

But I think you make a serious and interesting point about the word homophobia itself. I'm not sure I agree entirely - I think most prejudice is founded, to some degree, in fear - but I do agree bigots shouldn't be allowed to hide behind a fancy Greek word, as if prejudice is something they just can't help.

Posted by: Erica Pike (ericapike)
Posted at: May 17th, 2012 11:19 am (UTC)

You're right, it's just haters and hate. Not saying it's just religious people, but to think that a lot of those religious people hate in the name of God. So, so wrong. People used to use the devil as an excuse and now they're using God?


eripike at gmail dot com

Posted by: grace_roberts (jessie_lansdel)
Posted at: May 17th, 2012 02:03 pm (UTC)

Hmm, I have *always* reckoned that anything with *phobia* tagged on the end meant irrational fear. Yes, you're right it *is* hatred; but then again maybe some of the haters fear what, deep down they *really* feel.

It reminds me of a piece of dialogue in a film. A woman who is a Lesbian although it's never mentioned in the film. (it was the 60s) is asked "what do you really fear?" and she answers, "what I really want/am".

Posted by: Sat-Isis/Suten Net (cassiopaya)
Posted at: May 17th, 2012 08:08 pm (UTC)
Shamisen by sampaguita_blue

"the first definition is the fear of men, all men."

I have that. Not the other kind though.

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